4Cross Love Letter #29 Is Love Annoying?

Why Opposites Attract... and Then Annoy Each Other

Dear 4Cross Love Birds,

Ever wonder why the person you're wildly attracted to in the beginning becomes the one you argue with the most? That’s 4Cross at work. Opposites attract because your biology is looking for what it lacks. A North craves harmony from a South. An East craves structure from a West.

But once attraction fades, opposite becomes obstacle. Their strength starts to feel like a threat to your survival concern.

Here’s the trick: instead of trying to change them, try to honor their position. It's not personal. It's positional.

– Shelly LaVigne, Love Investigator